Prayer for fighting for marriage

Sometime ago, a spouse contacted me because he could no longer live with his wife. He hated everything about her. It was as if she had become a monster overnight.  No; there was no ‘other woman’ involved. He resented her in his home.
I discerned that the forces of evil were influencing the situation. And we launched out in warfare prayer against the demonic hordes working against their marriage. And through online counselling, we were able to work through all the other issues that opened them up for demon activity.
Some of those issues are also confronted in this prayer as well

LET US PRAY:

  • ALMIGHTY GOD, thank YOU for the marriages represented hereon.
  • I ask ABBA that your power to heal and to restore be here present.
  • I identify and confess as sin: anger, bitterness, resentment, selfishness, greed, avarice, inability to forgive and to let go, disobedience, and the putting of others first before YOU and our spouse.
  • In accordance with YOUR Word, I affirm that you have blotted out our sins as well as the handwriting of ordinances working against us.
  • We receive cleansing from all unrighteousness. And affirm that our minds are renewed and we now function in accordance with your will.
  • Let your peace flood our souls.
  • Let unconditional love saturates the entirety of our beings so that the wives will be submissive;  the husbands would love their wives las CHRIST loved the Church and died for Her; and both spouses would submit to one another in love.
  • By the Speaking Blood of JESUS CHRIST, We come against the forces of evil that has been assigned to frustrate and break marriages.
  • All controlling spirits sent against your marriage are bound and rendered impotent and are to leave at once.
  • All negative spiritual networks and reinforcements are to self-destruct at once. Zero visuals. Your marriage is no longer in satan’s radar now, in CHRIST’s name
  • All demons on assignment to your marriage are now isolated and rendered impotent. They can no longer perform their enterprise.
  • The name of JESUS CHRIST is exalted above all names in heaven, on earth and under the earth: therefore as these names are mentioned, all evil spirits and their relatives associated with the following names are to leave at once without causing any damage to lives and property:Anger; bitterness; resentment; selfishness; malcontent; greed; avarice; wickedness; negative memory; frustration; divorce; separation; single-parenting; constant disagreements; deep seated anger; anguish of soul; fault-finding; blame-shifting; rejection; irresponsibility; plan-less spending; addiction and  addictive behaviour; carelessness; inconsideration; vindictiveness; trouble from in-laws; the tormenting of children with regular/cyclical sicknesses; economic hardship; hate; revenge; disharmony and all form of abuse; cheating; lying; lust; unrealistic expectations, occult projections; witchcraft; idolatry and sorcery
  • I place a ban on all outgoing demons to never to come back under any guise or disguise to torment, oppress, suppress, obsess, intimidate, manipulate, or control ever again, in CHRIST’s name
  • The FINGER of GOD, the shield of faith and the word of my testimony is against all such evil spirits.
  • I affirm that the works of the devil is destroyed and your marriage is set free to model CHRIST and the Church.
  • Today is the day of salvation, restoration, deliverance and healing of individuals and marriages! An end has come to evil.  The good is come. Let peace like a river flow!All the works of the devil in your marriage is destroyed!
  • Your emotions, mind-set, affection, memory, feelings, mouth, reasoning faculties, perception, understanding, hearing, view-point, speech, body language, attitude and personality is cleansed and renewed.
  • GOD is working in and through you to touch more lives through your marriage.Your marriage is graced and favoured. Unity, harmony, faith, commitment, understanding, love, loyalty, accountability, and Godly characteristics flourish.
  • The fruit of the Holy Spirit is more evident in you. You are producing fruits worthy of repentance.Your household is blessed. Your children are blessed.
  • Your marriage will not end in divorce.  The scourge of ancestral marital failures is stopped in your generation. Single parenting is not your portion. Your spouse will not abandon you and the kids.
  • Your spouse will live long and you both shall enjoy your marriage and endure each other.
  • The other man/woman is to go at once and be married to another
  • Ungodly soul ties are severed. No one, no matter who they are, can interfere with your marriage again. The joy of marriage is restored to you. Your companionship is restored.
  • We boldly declare that the forces behind addiction, infidelity, spousal abuse and neglect are incapacitated. Your marital bond is renewed.
  • Every other relationship that is interfering with the unity and harmony of your family is terminated at once.
  • All straying spouses are to return home and be reconciled.  Forgiveness flourishes. Laughter resounds in your home.
  • I speak to your finances and economic base to receive the multiplier effect. Have more than enough and bless others.From today, the love and fear of GOD shall inform all your interactions with each other, in CHRIST name.
  • Receive more grace in your marriage. It is well with you all, in CHRIST name I have prayed.
  • Thank you ABBA for speedy answers to our prayers, for am confident that  YOU will confirm my words and perform my counsel to YOUR glory and praise, in CHRIST name. Amen.
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Prayers for Breaking Curses and Releasing Blessings of God

Original source: Apostle John Eckhardt’s book “Prayers that Rout Demons”

Breaking Curses and Releasing the Blessings of God
I am redeemed from the curse through the blood of Jesus (Galatians 3:13).
I am the seed of Abraham, and his blessing is mine (Galatians 3:14).
I choose blessing instead of cursing and life instead of death (Deuteronomy 11:26).
I break and release myself from all generational curses and iniquities as a result of the sins of my ancestors in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses on both sides of my family back sixty generations.
I break all curses of witchcraft, sorcery, and divination in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of pride and rebellion in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of death and destruction in the name of Jesus.
I break and rebuke all curses of sickness and infirmity in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of poverty, lack, and debt in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of rejection in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of double-mindedness and schizophrenia in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of Jezebel and Ahab in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of divorce and separation in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of lust and perversion in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of confusion and mental illness in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of idolatry in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses causing accidents and premature death in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all curses of wandering and vagabond in the name of Jesus.
I break and release myself from all spoken curses and negative words spoken against me by others and by those in authority, and I bless them.
I break and release myself from all self-inflicted curses by negative words I have spoken in the name of Jesus.
I command every demon hiding and operating behind a curse to come out in the name of Jesus.

How to break a curse by prayer

You can add to this prayer as inspired by the Holy Spirit and through scripture.  Pray it as one prayer or use each section as and when required. Before, you use this prayer, please read Matthew 12:43-45.  After expelling the spirits from yourself, you will have to stop sinning, cut out the things of the world and serve God to prevent them from coming back in.
Step 1: Confess sins then renounce pride, rebellion and self-centeredness
Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus, I believe that Jesus died on the cross to take my sins and rose again from the dead. I confess all my sins and repent.  Vengeance belongs to you God, not me.  I forgive everyone who has hurt me and pray for their souls because they don’t know what they have done to me.  In Jesus’ name, I transfer all pain, betrayal, rejection, abuse and trauma to the cross of Jesus Christ. I let go of all anger, resentment, hatred, thoughts of revenge and every malicious thought.  Father, as I forgive them, please forgive me. I know that pride is an abomination to you. I renounce pride, rebellion, disobedience, stubbornness and self-centredness.  I humble myself and come to You as a little child and ask for forgiveness and deliverance, in Jesus’ name.  Amen.

Step 2: Breaking all the curses
In the name of Jesus Christ, I break and loose myself and my family from all curses caused by habits, charms, hexes, spells, jinxes, psychic powers, sorcery, witchcraft, love potions, psychic prayers, violence, trauma, physical bondages, mental bondages, incest, illegitimacy, abandonment, rejection and divination, in the family on the mother and father’s side going all the way back to Adam and Eve.
I break and loose myself and my family from any vows I made; from any person or any occult or psychic sources, and any demons coming through the bloodlines.  I cancel all invitations made to unclean spirits.
Father, I break and renounce all evil soul ties that I have ever had with (lodges, fraternities, sexual partners, close friends, relatives, engagements, cults, occult objects, dolls, figurines, junk food, cigarettes, drugs, movies, anime, TV shows, computer games, gambling, porn, masturbation, fornication and secular music). I renounce all these ties and declare them destroyed in the name of Jesus.
I renounce, break and loose myself and family from all other religions, especially Roman Catholicism /Hinduism /Islam /Buddhism /Mormonism /Jehovah’s Witness /New Age /Atheism and other religions.  I also renounce unbelief, doubt, lies, fear, hatred and anger.  I bind and cast out all related spirits.
I renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection to my parents or any human being, living or dead, who has dominated me in any way against the will of God.  Thank you for setting me free.
I command satan, to loose all natural resources, land, animals, money, the finances of people who owe us money, and all the things you have stolen from my family that are ours through the blessings of Jesus.  Father, please send Your angels to bring these things back to us.  In the name of Jesus I pray.  Amen.

Step 3: Bind the demons and cast out the demons
Through the blood of Jesus, I am redeemed out of the hand of the devil and all my sins are forgiven.  The blood of Jesus Christ, cleanses me from all sins.  I am justified and made righteous, just as if I had never sinned.  I am set apart for God.  My body is a temple for the Holy Spirit, redeemed and cleansed by the blood of Jesus.  I belong to Jesus now, body, soul and spirit. His blood protects me against all evil.  Satan has no more power over me, no more place inside of me.  I renounce all evil spirits completely and declare them to be my enemies. Jesus said: “And these signs shall follow them that believe: In my name shall they cast out devils: ….” (Mark 16:17).  I am a believer, and in the name of Jesus Christ, I exercise my authority and expel all evil spirits.  I command them to leave, according to the Word of God and in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Find a strong believer to pray the next section.  If you can’t find one, try praying it yourself contact me
Father in heaven, please send your Holy Spirit to fill us up in the name of Jesus.
Father in heaven, I ask for legions upon legions of angels from heaven in the name of Jesus to station around us.  Angels of the Lord, at Jesus’ command, attack every unclean spirits in Jesus’ name.
I bind the principalities, powers, rulers of darkness, spiritual wickedness and all the strong demons in the name of Jesus.  I command all demons not to transfer, go exactly where Jesus wants you to go and do not come back.  I cancel all demonic assignments on this person.

Now, speak the following commands below – if they’re not starting to come out within 10 minutes, they probably have legal right
In the name of Jesus, I remit the sins of this person.
In the name of Jesus, I separate every foul spirit from this person’s soul in accordance with the word of God in Hebrews 4:12.
I cut every foul spirit from this person with the sword of the spirit.
Unclean spirits I command you to manifest and come out in the name of Jesus.
Demons, I command you to come out of the mouth now and never come back in Jesus name.  Go to the pit! (Repeat) Up and out! (Repeat)
I send Holy Spirit fire to burn you 1,000 times hotter than hell in the name of Jesus. Fire from head to toe! (Repeat)  Hotter! (Repeat)
I send Holy Spirit fire all over your body in the mighty name of Jesus. Fire from head to toe! (Repeat)  Hotter! (Repeat)
I send Holy Spirit fire all over the room, the floor and the ceiling. Fire from head to toe! (Repeat)  Hotter! (Repeat)
Every evil spirit that hears my voice, I command you to tell the truth in the name of Jesus.  Tell us your name in the name of Jesus.  How long have you been in there? What have you been doing inside? How many are inside?  And do you have a legal right to be there?
Every evil spirit that hears my voice, I command you to attack the strongman. Do not stop in the name of Jesus.  I order civil war in the name of Jesus.  Evil spirits attack each other in the name of Jesus.  Destroy your own kingdom. I loose burning judgement and destruction upon you in the name of Jesus.I command you to look at Jesus and do what he tells you to do. Look at Jesus! (Repeat) Do what he tells you to do! (Repeat)I cut all evil spiritual connections to this body and burn it away in the name of Jesus. Burn off now! (Repeat)I torment you demons and give you no rest in the name of Jesus.
Father in heaven, send power from the third heaven to destroy these demons in the name of Jesus.
I trample on you demons and shatter your being, in the name of Jesus.
I come against every unclean spirit by the blood of the lamb.  This is a child of God.  Their body has been sanctified by the blood of Jesus.
I rebuke and cast out every unclean spirit to the pit and command them never to return in the name of Jesus.
Warrior angels, hook into the demons and rip them apart.  Send the demons to the pit in Jesus name.
Warrior angels, flog the demons and choke them out.  Send the demons to the pit in Jesus name.

Repeat each command as directed by the Holy Spirit.  End the deliverance by giving thanks to God and praising him in the name of Jesus. Examples of this prayer working:
Deliverance Videos (If the prayer doesn’t work for you, there is probably something in your life that gives legal right for the spirits to remain or you haven’t fully surrendered to Jesus).

Step 4: Protection prayers for you who are the body of Christ
Dear Father, please make me a humble servant of people like Jesus Christ.  I will push myself down, so that you God can lift me up.  Remove my human understanding and wisdom and fill me with your wisdom and understanding.  I’m a worm before you, Lord.  In accordance with your word, my righteousness is as filthy rags.  I can’t do good without you.  Please have mercy upon me and help me change day by day to become more like Jesus Christ.   I ask that you please send your ministering spirits to protect your people; and all people and animals that would be sacrificed or cursed by occult practices.
In the name of Jesus, I loose legions upon legions of angels to warfare, restore souls, protect believers, stop us from believing and agreeing with lies and release breakthrough upon myself, my family, friends and the world in the name of Jesus.
I loose the Holy Spirit who is the spirit of understanding and wisdom, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and fear of God, and the spirit of adoption upon myself, family and the world.  I invite your Holy Spirit who is the spirit of power, of love, and of sound mind against the spirit of fear.
Father, please pour out your Holy Spirit to convict the world of sins and to soften hearts to see truth.  Above all, I pray for your will, Father, to be done on earth even as it is done in heaven.  In Jesus’ name I pray.  Amen.

Source and credit for this are in this link

http://www.testofbelievers.com/prayer-to-break-curses-cast-out-demons-and-protect-gods-people/

Prayer against the Jezebel Spirit from your life

Father, I acknowledge that I have yielded myself to the spirit of Jezebel. I come to you, humbling myself before you. I desire your standard of righteousness and holiness.

I ask you to forgive me for my tolerance of the Jezebel spirit and for being sympathetic to its ways. Please forgive me for every way I have opened myself up to this spirit. Help me to ruthlessly reject every type of this thinking and the desire to control and manipulate other people.

I renounce and bind this demon of Jezebel, and I pull down this stronghold in my life.

Through the Holy Spirit I will live by your standard of righteousness, holiness and conduct. Open my eyes and cause Your light to expose any darkness, and help me to walk in humility and truth.

In Jesus Name,

Amen!

30 traits of the Jezebel Spirit

Jezebel is a spirit, but it finds access through uncrucified flesh.  Although the Jezebel spirit is described in the Bible as being a woman, it does not actually have a gender. There is no doubt that it functions just as proficiently through men.

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1. Refuses to admit guilt or wrong

A Jezebel spirit is never wrong, unless it is a temporary admittance of guilt to gain “favor” with someone. To accept responsibility would violate the core of insecurity and pride from which it operates. When a Jezebel apologizes it is never in true repentance or acknowledgment of wrongdoing but rather “I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.”

2. Takes credit for everything

While a strong trait of Jezebel is to never take responsibility for his wrong actions or behavior, he also is quick to take credit for benefits for which he contributed no effort.

3. Uses people to accomplish its agenda

The Jezebel spirit lets others do its dirty work. The Jezebel gets another person’s emotions stirred up, then lets that person go into a rage. The Jezebel sits back looking innocent, saying “Who me? What did I do?” This behavior makes it difficult for even the most ardent truth seekers to pin one down. The Jezebel spirit is clever in its agenda.

4. Withholds information

This is a form of control. A Jezebel wields power over you by knowing something you don’t know in a situation. In the eyes of a Jezebel, having information you don’t have is a powerful weapon of control.

5. Talks in confusion

It is impossible to converse with a Jezebel in logic. One pastor wrote a six-page letter to his elders about a situation in the church. The context was so vague that no one was without confusion. This is a way to maintain control and domination. When confronting a Jezebel, the subject may be changed five times in one minute. Confusion keeps them “undiscovered” and unexposed.

6. Volunteers for anything

A Jezebel volunteers in order to establish control. He seemingly has endless (nervous) energy and eagerly looks for opportunities to be in charge of projects. Although he will work hard, his motive is never pure, and eventually his secret agenda cannot be hidden.

7. Lies

A Jezebel lies convincingly. No one can lie better than he can. He can turn on the charm and make you believe blue is red. He always fools those whom he’s just met while those who have been victimized by his tactics stand by helplessly. The fact that Jezebel can look you in the eye and lie just shows how strong and adamant this rebellious and recalcitrant spirit is.

8. Ignores people

A classic ploy of a controller is to ignore you when you disagree with him. This tactic is frequently used by leaders when someone doesn’t agree with their plans, and they isolate the person by ignoring him. Some in these situations have been ignored for months, just because they chose not to be a puppet and say to every idea or whim. This puts the person out of the leader’s grace and forces him to either “come around” to the leader’s way of thinking or be indefinitely ignored. One is not free to disagree with a controller.

9. Never gives credit or shows gratitude

A Jezebel will rarely acknowledge another person’s actions, not even for something that turned out to greatly benefit the Jezebel. He just cannot bring himself to say thank you or to acknowledge that someone else did something right. There are those who have gone out of their way to bless a Jezebel by being the catalyst of sending him on a trip or giving a gift. Yet never will there be a thank you. This again puts the controller in a position of power.

10. Criticizes everyone

This is a characteristic of a controller. He has to be the one who looks good, so he will quickly sharply criticize anyone who makes a suggestion or plan. Even though he likes the plan, he can only criticize it because the idea did not originate from him. Criticizing others elevates the controller in his own mind.

11. Oneupmanship

A person with a Jezebel spirit will always upstage another person. He feels threatened by anyone who dares to steal the limelight or anyone who is a threat to his power and control. If you are with such a person and tell of your accomplishment or victory, you can be assured he will quickly tell of something he has accomplished.

12. Sequesters information

A Jezebel loves to be in control of information. If there is ever a situation where information is important, he will push to be the “first” to know it. He seems to know everything about everyone. Where he gets all his information is beyond comprehension, but he can dictate to you data and details about people’s lives and actions in mass quantities.

13. Uses information

A Jezebel uses information as a leverage for power and then shares tidbits with you, often things told him in confidence. This gives him a sense of power, even to the point of trying to impress people by “knowing things” that others do not.

14. Talks incessantly

Many people talk habitually, but a Jezebel uses talking as a form of control. In a typical conversation, he does all the talking, whether it is about sports, the weather or the Kingdom of God. Because of this form of control, he is unable to receive input from anyone in his life. All conversation with him is one-sided. You are doing the listening.

15. Spiritualizes everything

When a controller is confronted, he commonly spiritualizes the situation, explaining it off on God. This prevents him from owning up to responsibility required of him. The implication is always, “You’ve got a problem; I don’t.”

16. Is insubordinate

A Jezebel never takes the side of the employer or a person in authority, unless it is a temporary action to make himself look good. He often will take credit for someone else’s idea. His main desire is for power and control. There is no conscience when an opportunity for recognition presents itself.

17. Is pushy and domineering

A person with a Jezebel spirit pressures you to do things, seemingly ripping from you your right to choose or make a decision for yourself. He makes others feel as though they don’t have enough sense to think for themselves.

18. Is clairvoyant

Many who operate with a spirit of control also have a clairvoyant spirit. A Jezebel has supernatural help in knowning and sensing information. If he uses this against you, he may say “I can’t tell you how I know this. I just know it.” This is not the Holy Spirit, but the help of a clairvoyant or familiar spirit. Clairvoyance may be defined as the power to perceive things that are out of the range of human senses.

19. Uses the element of surprise

A Jezebel’s main thrust is to be in control, and a large part of control is catching you off guard. Therefore, the element of surprise works well when he shows up a day early for a meeting, etc.

20. Sows seeds of discord

A Jezebel will continually belittle another person in the most subtle way. The strategy is to “gain” control by minimizing the value of another person. It is common for him to tell half-truths to implicate another person in your eyes. By sowing these seeds, he hopes to eventually reap a harvest of destruction, improving his position of power.

21. Commands attention

A Jezebel likes to be the center of attention and doesn’t like to see others recognized and lauded. When someone else is recognized, he will quickly undermine the person’s accomplishments verbally.

22. Is vengeful

Since a Jezebel is never wrong, if you contradict or confront one, get ready to become his worst enemy. As long as you are in agreement with him, all is fine. But if you confront or challenge him, then look out. You are the target of his fiercest venom. A Jezebel will stop at nothing to destroy your reputation.

23. Attempts to make you look like you’re the Jezebel

A Jezebel spirit is difficult to pin down. If the person is near to being confronted, he or she will skillfully twist the entire situation, trying to make the innocent person look like the one who is attempting to control. As always, the Jezebel will do anything to look like the one who is right.

24. Insinuates disapproval

A Jezebel will often imply disapproval to those under his or her control. The controlled person feels no freedom to express an opinion, for fear of disapproval. This often manifests in a marriage or in a working environment.

25. Knows it all

A Jezebel is usually blatant regarding his knowledge of everything. Quick to express his opinion in any area, he leaves little room for anyone to point out the other side of an issue. He has made idols of his opinions.

26. Is ambitious

The Jezebel has strong desire, but all for self. “I want what I want when I want it,” describes his worship of self-will. A Jezebel leader will never use the words, “We have a vision,” but rather, “My vision is thus and so.”

27. Gift giving

Gift giving is a form of manipulation a Jezebel uses that always makes you feel obligated to him. It also compromises the victim in speaking direct and confrontive truth. Naturally, not everyone who gives gifts is guilty of control, but gift giving is a tactic used by those who have a need to control.

28. Is independent

No one has input in a Jezebel’s life. He fraternizes with no one unless it is to get you to “cooperate” with his agenda.

29. Is religious

A Jezebel dwells in the local church but doesn’t like authority unless he is in the position of authority.

30. Hides

We all want to believe that the person with a Jezebel spirit is delivered. The person may seem “normal” for a period, exhibiting none of the classic traits. Then suddenly without warning a situation will arise, once again with the spirit taking control and wreaking havoc over lives. Hopefully, true repentance will come. Only then will the person be delivered.

The good news is that God gives each individual person the freedom of choice. Everyone has the freedom to make decisions, to make mistakes, to think for himself, to communicate, to like or dislike and to express his taste and creativity. 

See more https://truthinreality.com/2012/09/24/30-consistent-traits-of-the-jezebel-spirit/

What does the Bible say about Narcissim

Narcissism is the term used in psychology to describe a preoccupation with self. It is a Greek term taken from the name of the mythological Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image and was doomed to die because he would not turn away from it. A narcissist is a person who displays a high level of selfishness, vanity, and pride. He sees everything from a “how does this affect me?” perspective. Empathy is impossible for the narcissist because his only perspective is the one centered on self. In psychology, narcissism is seen as a broad spectrum of conditions ranging from normal to pathological.


The Bible says that we are born sinful since the fall (Romans 5:12). This means that we are born with only sinful tendencies and no ability to be “good” or righteous on our own. What we call “human nature” the Bible calls “the flesh” (Galatians 5:19-21). Part of our sin nature is a total focus on self. This focus, also called “egocentrism,” is how babies see and experience the world. Narcissism is like egocentrism in that the adult still relates to the world like an infant, a perspective that impedes personal growth and relationships.

Psychological theories about narcissism suggest that the narcissistic person uses defense mechanisms to idealize self so that he does not have to face his own mistakes (sin) or flaws (fallen state). The diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder outlines the behavior patterns of a narcissistic person as being haughty, non-empathetic, manipulative, and envious; he also possesses a sense of entitlement and grandiosity. From a biblical perspective, it is clear that these heart conditions are due to pride, which is sin (Proverbs 16:18). The Bible tells us to “look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4). The narcissist routinely disobeys this command.

Pride is a reason people do not feel they need a savior or forgiveness. Pride tells them they are “good” people or have a “good” heart. Pride also blinds people to their own personal responsibility and accountability for sin. Narcissism (pride) masks sin, whereas the gospel reveals the truth that leads to remorse for sin. Narcissistic traits can be dangerous because, at their worst, they will lead a person to destroy others to satisfy the lust of the flesh (2 Timothy 3:2-8).

The Bible addresses the issues related to narcissism as part of our sinful natural self (Romans 7:5). We are slaves to the flesh until we place our faith in Jesus, who sets the captives free (Romans 7:14-25John 8:34-36). Believers are then slaves to righteousness as the Holy Spirit begins the transforming work of sanctification in their lives. However, believers must surrender to the Lord and humble themselves in order to have God’s perspective rather than a selfish one (Mark 8:34). The process of sanctification is turning away from self (narcissism) and turning toward Jesus.

All people are narcissists until they either learn how to cover it and get along in the world or until they recognize their own flesh and repent of their sin. The Lord helps people to grow out of narcissism when they receive Jesus as their savior (Romans 3:19-26). The believer is empowered to begin loving others as himself (Mark 12:31).
See more http://www.gotquestions.org/narcissism.html

Bible cure for narcissism

While Jesus’ popularity was growing, John the Baptist’s friends felt a little slighted for the prophet. John the Baptist however, said about Jesus, “He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” (John 3:30 NLT) John knew that God had appointed him to be the messenger to announce the coming of the “bridegroom,” who was Christ Himself, and he was content to play the role he had been given. 

Beholding Christ on the cross

Seeing Jesus on the Cross. Harry Anderson Image © Review & Herald Publishing from GoodSalt.com

After conducting a funeral for an elderly lady,  I was eating at the table with her grown children. Each one was talking about projects they had going on in their homes. I was surprised how easily their lives seemed to be moving on. I thought to myself, “If they can move on so easily after losing their mother, how quickly will people forget me after I die?” The thought was making me a little depressed. While they were talking among themselves, I quickly checked my Facebook under the table. And I saw that a friend had written, “Living my life so that people will remember me after I die is too small a cause to live for.” With the timing, I took that as a message straight from heaven. Had I been focusing more on God’s love like John the Baptist did, instead of myself, I probably would not have had that moment of insecurity and depression. 

Health professionals agree that a lack of feeling loved is what leads to insecurities and even narcissistic attitudes. Because John the Baptist was focused on God rather than self, he was overwhelmed by God’s love, and I believe that is the exact opposite of the focus of a narcissist who is insecure because of self-focus.

Below are signs, from the Mayo Clinic, that you or someone you know may be narcissistic. 1  The Mayo clinic says this is a rare mental disease. Some may wonder what their definition of “rare” is, since  narcissistic behavior seems to be becoming an epidemic. After each sign, I have provided a Bible passage which offers a cure or example for each sign of narcissism.

I don’t believe people intend to be narcissistic, and may not be aware of their narcissism. If this looks like you, please prayerfully consider the Bible verses and perhaps contact a Christian counselor for help.

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, how you handle it needs to be determined by the nature of the relationship. In some cases, you may be able to deal with the relationship by leaning fully on Christ and getting your love and strength from Him. In other cases it may be so damaging that it becomes necessary to seek spiritual and maybe even professional counseling to find your best way out. Don’t be surprised if the narcissist makes him or herself look like the victim.

As well as providing the signs listed below to diagnose narcissism, the Mayo clinic also suggests a cause for the disease. They theorize that people who were not properly nurtured and cared for in the early stages of their life are more likely to become narcissists. If only these people realized how much God loves and cares for them!

Lucifer was loved and cared for in heaven, yet he played mind games with himself, until he brainwashed himself into thinking that nobody cared about him but himself. His only self-concocted shred of evidence was that God the Son outranked him. He felt ill-used because he did not have the position of Christ and thought, “What about me?!”

Meanwhile, Jesus, “Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to.” Philippians 2:6 NLT Instead of crying out “What about me!” Jesus has always cried out, “What about others!” Here are the signs of narcissism provided by the Mayo Clinic, along with the examples or cures found in the Bible.

  • Believing that you’re better than others

Biblical Response: Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate?

Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.  

Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.

You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross. Philippians 2:1-8 NLT

  • Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness

Biblical Response: So Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them.

But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant,  and whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:42-45 NLT

  • Exaggerating your achievements or talents

Biblical Response: Then the people of Ephraim asked Gideon, “Why have you treated us this way? Why didn’t you send for us when you first went out to fight the Midianites?” And they argued heatedly with Gideon.

But Gideon replied, “What have I accomplished compared to you? Aren’t even the leftover grapes of Ephraim’s harvest better than the entire crop of my little clan of Abiezer? God gave you victory over Oreb and Zeeb, the commanders of the Midianite army. What have I accomplished compared to that?”

When the men of Ephraim heard Gideon’s answer, their anger subsided. Judges 8:1-3 NLT

  • Expecting regular praise and admiration.

Biblical Example: Herod put on his royal robes, sat on his throne, and made a speech to them.  The people gave him a great ovation, shouting, “It’s the voice of a god, not of a man!”

Instantly, an angel of the Lord struck Herod with a sickness, because he accepted the people’s worship instead of giving the glory to God. Acts 12:21-23 NLT

  • Believing that you deserve special treatment

Biblical Response: When Jesus noticed that all who had come to the dinner were trying to sit in the seats of honor near the head of the table, he gave them this advice:  “When you are invited to a wedding feast, don’t sit in the seat of honor. What if someone who is more distinguished than you has also been invited?  The host will come and say, ‘Give this person your seat.’ Then you will be embarrassed, and you will have to take whatever seat is left at the foot of the table!

“Instead, take the lowest place at the foot of the table. Then when your host sees you, he will come and say, ‘Friend, we have a better place for you!’ Then you will be honored in front of all the other guests.  For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Luke 14:7-11 NLT

  • Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings

Biblical Response: Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.  Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! Romans 12:15-16 NLT

  • Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans

Biblical Response: Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisers. Proverbs 11:14 NLT

  • Taking advantage of others

Biblical Counsel: Look here, you rich people: Weep and groan with anguish because of all the terrible troubles ahead of you. Your wealth is rotting away, and your fine clothes are moth-eaten rags.  Your gold and silver have become worthless. The very wealth you were counting on will eat away your flesh like fire. This treasure you have accumulated will stand as evidence against you on the day of judgment.  For listen! Hear the cries of the field workers whom you have cheated of their pay. The wages you held back cry out against you. The cries of those who harvest your fields have reached the ears of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. James 5:1-4 NLT

  • Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior

Biblical Example: Then Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own righteousness and scorned everyone else: “Two men went to the Temple to pray. One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: ‘I thank you, God, that I am not a sinner like everyone else. For I don’t cheat, I don’t sin, and I don’t commit adultery. I’m certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income.’

“But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed. Instead, he beat his chest in sorrow, saying, ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.’  I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned home justified before God. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 NLT

  • Being jealous of others

Biblical Response by Paul: Agrippa interrupted him. “Do you think you can persuade me to become a Christian so quickly?”

Paul replied, “Whether quickly or not, I pray to God that both you and everyone here in this audience might become the same as I am, except for these chains.” Acts 26:28-29 NLT 

(When Paul had Jesus, He did not want anything King Agrippa had. He wanted Agrippa to have what He had!)

  • Believing that others are jealous of you

Biblical Example: And David spake to the men that stood by him, saying, What shall be done to the man that killeth this Philistine, and taketh away the reproach from Israel? for who [is] this uncircumcised Philistine, that he should defy the armies of the living God? And the people answered him after this manner, saying, So shall it be done to the man that killeth him.

And Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spake unto the men; and Eliab’s anger was kindled against David, and he said, “Why camest thou down hither? and with whom hast thou left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know thy pride, and the naughtiness of thine heart; for thou art come down that thou mightest see the battle.”

And David said, “What have I now done? [Is there] not a cause?”  1 Samuel 17:26-29

  •  Having trouble keeping healthy relationships

Biblical Counsel: A man [that hath] friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend [that] sticketh closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24

  •  Aspiring to the position of someone above you

Biblical Example: 
“How you are fallen from heaven, O shining star, son of the morning! 
You have been thrown down to the earth, 
you who destroyed the nations of the world. 
For you said to yourself, 
‘I will ascend to heaven and set my throne above God’s stars. 
I will preside on the mountain of the gods far away in the north. 
I will climb to the highest heavens 
and be like the Most High.’ 
Instead, you will be brought down to the place of the dead, 
down to its lowest depths. Isaiah 14:12-15 NLT

  • Feeling easily hurt and rejected

Christ’s Example: He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were [our] faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he [was] wounded for our transgressions, [he was] bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace [was] upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.  Isaiah 53:3-6

  • Having a fragile self-esteem

Biblical Example: And the women answered [one another] as they played, and said, Saul hath slain his thousands, and David his ten thousands .And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him; and he said, They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed [but] thousands: and [what] can he have more but the kingdom?  

And Saul eyed David from that day and forward.  1 Samuel 18:7-9

  • Wanting to appear tough-minded or unemotional

Biblical Promise: And I will give them one heart, and I will put a new spirit within you; and I will take the stony heart out of their flesh, and will give them an heart of flesh:  Ezekiel 11:19

If you see yourself here, or someone you have to deal with on a regular basis, you may need to seek professional counseling. (Here is some helpful advice on dealing with a narcissistic boss.)

We may be tempted to be narcissistic in some very ordinary circumstances. For instance, a while back, a friend of mine was flying from Tampa to Chicago every week on a work assignment. At the end of a certain week he was tired and ready for a quiet and relaxing plane ride home. It wasn’t going to happen. That day a large group got on the plane who were having a big noisy celebration of some kind. Instead of getting angry or upset, my friend who was already tired, just sighed and smiled, as he told himself, “Apparently today is not about me.”

In many cases, the cure may just be that simple. Remember that “It’s not all about me.”

For the disciples it was a little more complex than that. They had rivalries and arguments over which one would be the greatest in the coming Kingdom. It wasn’t until they saw Jesus on the cross willing to die the second death and go into total oblivion that they then lost their narcissistic tendencies and became selfless and meek like John the Baptist who said, 

He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less. John 3:30 NLT 

The disciples overcame self and narcissism when they did what John the Baptist suggested years earlier. 

“Look! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world! John 1:29 NLT 

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