How to pray for toxic relationship

Father, I may be blind to my own role in toxic relationships. Help me see the truth about myself. Apply the healing power of Your Word to my heart and mind. Deliver me from any stronghold that causes me to harm people with my words and actions. Save me from self-destructive patterns.

I struggle in my relationship with ______. I need You to give me wisdom on how to love ____ well. You are my shield and defender. Show me how, when and where to erect boundaries in our relationship. I believe You are my healer and I trust You to guard my heart and mind.

I need Your specific directions on how to interact with ______.

I want to love _____ with a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. (1 Timothy 1:5)

Help me to love ______ courageously. Fill me with Your truth and compel me to fearlessly tell the truth with love. Let Your perfect love cast out all of my fears related to our relationship.

I forgive ______ for hurting me. I ask You to forgive me for _______ and _______. I acknowledge my emotions: _______, _________, and _______. And I invite You to steady my heart so my emotions do not rule my decisions

I surrender what I think our relationship should be. Please transform it so that it honors You.

In Jesus, I pray. Amen
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Carry me Jesus

Jesus I feel overwhelmed. I can’t stand the pressure. It is too much for me. The burden is too heavy. I need you. I need you to carry me through this period of my life. Would you carry me?

Day 8: Tell your spouce that you are glad for his success

​Love is not jealous

Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire.

—Song of Solomon 8:6 NIV 

TODAY’S DARE

Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed

Characteristics of The Charismatic Male Jezebel

Characteristics

  1. He comes on strong, sweeping his victims off their feet. He can be a “hot, passionate lover.” Women are flattered by his intense attention of them, and excited by his male dominant approach to sex. He sexually “adores” them in Romeo fashion.

  2. He targets them by falsely mirroring their values, interests, goals, philosophies, tastes and habits. He is “everything you are.” Wow, you have so much in common! You are a too perfect match !

  3. He fakes integrity, honesty and sincerity. He convincingly mimics human emotions. He uses people. He is a “sincere liar.”

  4. He can seem very spiritual or idealistic, but this is superficial. His interpretation of scripture, however, may not agree with what God had in mind.

  5. He can suddenly play the role of the victim. Similar to the sneaky charming jezebel. Victims take pity on him. They see him as needing them. He is playing on the natural nurturing character of women.

  6. He can inspire the woman to attack those who are supposed to be victimizing him. This causes injury to innocent people, and hurts the woman’s relationships with others. Her friends and family can be alienated from her in this way.

  7. He wants to marry victims quickly. Impulsive. He wants his victims dependent on him. He portrays false integrity, appears helpful, comforting, generous.

  8. The fake sincerity does not last as he starts to change into his true self. He will have numerous romantic relationships. He has no loyalty to anyone except his own body parts.

  9. He blames others in the relationship. His victims are objectified and disposable.

  10. His lack of conscience is shocking, incomprehensible and emotionally painful to the victim. He can suddenly end the relationship, without any compassion. The woman victim is quickly discarded as he cultivates a “new perfect partner”. Or she may be able to end the relationship, and salvage what she can.

  11. He may drop verbal clues about his true character early in the relationship, but victims fail to grasp its meaning. He romances them as he romances others, to exploit what stimulation he can out of each one. Victims are too enraptured with all the sexual attention, to realize that is all he is giving them.

  12. Eventually the unmasked Jezebel emerges. His targets suffer emotional and financial devastation and their emotional recovery is lengthy.

  13. He will recruit others as he condemns you for being a failure to him. Expect people he knows to gang up on you.

  14. Nothing is his fault.

  15. You can suffer and die, and he will not care. Maybe he will “pray” for you. This is insulting, at the least.

  16. In a church setting, he can be the perfect Christian. Everyone will idealize him and promote him. He may end up as an elder in the church, or a pastor, or in some position of authority. He is so charming that everyone is impressed with him. He is a man’s man, and the kind of man that women secretly admire.

  17. When you start having problems with him, he will have the church “pray for you.” He is projecting his sin onto you, and condescending to you. You will be the sinner, lost, and in need of deliverance, not him. He has the demon, but you will get the bad reputation. He slanders successfully.

  18. The Jezebel man is not an Ahab (see other posts for this). The Jezebel is a spirit of control and rebellion. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy. The Ahab is a permissive spirit, that just lets the devil have his way.

  19. Jezebels are cruel, dishonest, controlling and critical, when they show their true colors.

What to do about him:

Abandon your efforts to help or cure him.

His true mask exposed and the false character he portrayed is gone forever.

Accept the reality. He does not want to change. Any “I will change” is a lie.

Seek therapy. Seek prayer and support. You are the only one that will want help. He is not concerned. He can get another woman using the same methods he got you.

Ignore and don’t react to his hurtful words. It is not your fault that you are not good enough for him. Do not let him blame you for the break up.

Don’t take the bait when he blames or lies. They fool even trained professionals. Check out what he says. Get proof.

Do not be vulnerable or naive. Check out his past before you get involved with any man. Look at how he treats others.

Prepare for a nasty divorce. He will slander you.

Accept no abuse. Respect yourself. Learn to fight back.

Do your homework before getting involved with someone. How does he treat other people? How does he treat his mother and sister? What does his father think of him? How does he get along with relatives? Co-workers?

Do you hear many complaints from him about them? Do they complain about him? Does he lie? Does he take advantage of people? Does he respect others?

Look at your own weaknesses that let him in. If you allowed the sex without the real love, then you need to work on that. Check your own value system and morals. He took advantage of your willingness to compromise your values. Work to correct your weaknesses. Close the door to his type.

Understand the biblical principle of bad tree = bad fruit, and good tree = good fruit. If you are not sure about the tree, look at the fruit. Before a woman gets deeply involved with any man, his behavior and moral character should be carefully examined.

Source and more information you find here
https://heavenawaits.wordpress.com/the-charismatic-male-jezebel-conquest-by-romance-and-assimilation/

Prayers For Marriage Restoration – Men

Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. Colossians 4:2

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for leading _____ and I to acknowledge our offense and feel our guilt, and that we seek Your face in our affliction and distress, and that we seek and require You earnestly. Hosea 5:15
Thank You that the purpose for which You tore us apart was to make us return to You, so You could heal us and bind up our wounds, and that You are now reviving and restoring us so we may live in Your presence forever. Hosea 6:1-2
And thank You for saving us from distress when we call out in trouble. Thank You, Father, for sending Your Word, and for healing our marriage and rescuing us from destruction. Thank You for Your unfailing love and for Your wonderful deeds. Psalm 107:19-21
And thank You, Lord, for Your kindness, tolerance, and patience with us, and for the time You give us to turn from our sin. Romans 2:4
And that we listen to You and will live in security, with confident trust and without fear of harm or evil. Proverbs 1:33
I rejoice, Lord, and give You praise and honor that _____ and I love each other and will live together in harmony with sympathy, compassion and humility, and that we inherit blessings because we do not return evil for evil or insults for insults, but respond with blessings instead. 1 Peter 3:8
And that we live by the Spirit and do not gratify the desires of our sinful nature. Galatians 5:16

I thank you Lord, that I live with my wife in considerate understanding and respect for my role as her husband and that my prayers will not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
And that she happily submits to me as her husband and the head of her as Christ is the head of the church. Ephesians 5:22-25
And I praise You that everything we have been through has not quenched her love for me, and neither have floods or rivers washed it away. Song of Solomon 8:7
And that she does not feel harsh, bitter or resentful toward me because I love her, as my own body and as Christ loves the Church. Ephesians 5:25-28
And I thank You that our life is blessed with the rewards of fidelity and that _____ rejoices in me as the husband of her youth. Proverbs 5:17-18
And that she longs to kiss me because my love delights her. Song of Solomon 1:2
And that I will always satisfy her, that she is forever captivated by my love.
Proverbs 5:19
I praise Your holy name that I belong to my lover and wife and that her desire is for me. Song of Solomon 7:10
And that You bless me, Lord, by surrounding me with favor, as with a shield, and give me favor in _____’s eyes above every other man on earth. Psalm 5:12
I praise You, Lord, that I am her husband forever by the marriage vows we made before You in righteousness, justice, unfailing love and compassion. Hosea 2:19
And that You have made us one in flesh and spirit, that You are a witness to our marriage covenant and that I am her companion and husband. I thank You that she will not break faith with me as her partner and the husband of her youth, and that You will receive her offerings with pleasure. May she also guard herself and her spirit by not breaking faith with you because You hate divorce and You hate it when a man or woman covers themselves with such violence. Malachi 2:13-16

Thank You, Lord, that _____ never forgets Your teachings and that she keeps Your commands in her heart, and that Your Word is working in our marriage, and she will not be deceived by the persuasive words of the adulterer who would lead her astray or be seduced by his smooth talk. Proverbs 7:21
And that wisdom enters her heart, and knowledge is pleasant to her soul. I thank You that discretion protects her and that understanding guards her. Proverbs 2:10-11
And I thank You, Lord, and give you all honor and glory, that the gates of hell will not prevail against us or our marriage because we are Your Church and Jesus said the powers of hell could not conquer us. Matthew 16:18
Therefore, we will inherit a double portion in our marriage as You repay and restore what the locusts were sent among us to destroy. Joel 2:25
And I praise You for giving us Your words and wisdom, and that our marriage will overcome all adversaries because the enemy cannot contradict or resist them.
Luke 21:15
And for giving us everlasting joy and a double portion instead of shame, and that instead of disgrace, we will rejoice in our inheritance. Isaiah 61:7

I praise You, Lord, that _____ will once again acknowledge You and that You won’t let anyone take her out of Your hands even if You take away her prosperity and expose her, and put an end to all of her celebrations because she forgot You. And I thank You, Lord, for alluring her back by leading her into the desert and speaking tenderly to her while she is there. I thank You for restoring what was lost and for transforming our valley of trouble into a gateway of hope. I give You all praise and honor that she will return to me and give herself to me as she once did, and she will call me her husband and be happy with me as before. And that she will forget all about other lovers and that their names will never again be spoken. Hosea 2:8-17
Thank You, Lord, that Jesus redeemed me from the curse of the law by being made a curse for me. Galatians 3:13
And I thank You that ____ and I are reconciled to You through Jesus, by His blood shed on the cross, and that we are reconciled back to each other despite anything we’ve done to each other in the past. We are now presented holy before You without blemish and free from accusation through His death. Colossians 1:20-22
I give You praise and honor, Lord, that no weapon formed against our marriage has prospered, and that You are proving every voice raised against our reconciliation wrong because this is my heritage as Your child and it is Your vindication for me. Isaiah 54:17

I praise You, Lord, that Your grace is sufficient for me as I stand for the restoration of my marriage, and that Your power is made perfect in my weakness and that the power of Christ is in me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
And I am strong and courageous, not afraid or discouraged because Your power is greater than the power of Satan and all who do his work. 2 Chronicles 32:7
I am so thankful that You are watching to make certain that Your Word is fulfilled and that You are performing it in our marriage. Jeremiah 1:12
And I praise and thank You, Lord, for keeping forever the promise you have made concerning me and my home and for doing as you promised so that Your name will be great forever. O Sovereign LORD, you are God! Your words are trustworthy, and you have promised these good things to me. You have said that You will build a home for me and that it pleases You to bless my marriage so it will continue before You forever. You have spoken, and with Your blessing, my home and marriage will be established with blessings forever. AMEN. II Samuel 7:25-29

Prayer for unfaithful spouse

“Lord, I believe in Your mighty power. Lord, I trust You to heal my marriage. Lord, remove the spirit of adultery, unfaithfulness, unforgiveness, anger, lying and deceiving spirits, disobedience and rebellious spirits from my spouse’s heart. Lord, remove their heart of stone and show them the way of escape. You are the Way, the Truth and the Light to set them free showing them the pathway home. I thank You that You are moving in my spouse’s heart every day bringing them back to You and back to our marriage. I pray this all in the mighty Name of Jesus. Amen.”

Hedge Prayer for Return of a Wayward Spouse

[The Prayer of Hosea is one of the most powerful prayers in the arsenal of spiritual warfare — the Hedge Prayer. Hosea had a wife who was committing adultery and running around on him. Hosea was convinced that he not divorce her but to pray for her return. This prayer is particularly useful in praying for a wayward spouse, child, or friend who has gone astray from the Faith and from God, has left to lead an improper life, and/or is estranged from the proper relationship they should have with you.

It should be noted, as it is with all prayer, the Hedge Prayer is not a magic bullet. There are no guarantees that the person prayed for will return. We must always remember that God has given his children the freedom to choose — even the freedom to choose wrongly. No one, not even God, may force a person against their will to do anything. God, however, is a mighty persuader and although He will not intrude upon one’s freedom to choose the course of one’s own actions, He may provide the person with great incentive, motivation, and circumstances to help them decide to come back to the place they should be.


For she said, ‘I will go after my lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool and my flax, my oil and my drink.’ Therefore I will hedge up her way with thorns; and I will build a wall against her, so that she cannot find her paths. She shall pursue her lovers, but not overtake them; and she shall seek them, but shall not find them. Then she shall say, ‘I will go and return to my first husband, for it was better with me then than now.’ Hosea 2:5b-7]

Trusting in the promise that whatever we ask the Father in Jesus’ name He will do, I now approach You Father with confidence in Our Lord’s words and in Your infinite power and love for me and _________ and with the intercession of the Jesus Christ and Holy in the power of His blessed Name, ask you Father to send forth Your Spirit to convict ________ and to allow him/her to see any and all wrongs that he has done and how they offend Your infinite goodness.

Father I ask in sorrow, knowing that You do not intrude upon free will, but that You can give Divine Influence like you did with Hosea’s wife, that You send a hedge of thorns and wall around _________ so that he/she cannot find the paths that lead him/her away from me and our marriage, and though he/she shall pursue his/her [i.e. lovers, lifestyle, sinful ways, etc.] , he/she will not [i.e. overtake them, practice improper lifestyles, engage in sin, etc.] ; though he/she shall seek [i.e. lovers, improper lifestyle, sin, etc.] , he/she shall not find [i.e. them, desired lifestyle, the sin that draws him, etc.] ; that no matter what path or what [i.e. lover, lifestyle, sin, etc.] he/she seeks he/she shall not find satisfaction or happiness until he/she returns to me, his/her wife/husband where he/she may then be taught by Your Holy Spirit the true meaning of marriage and sexuality and to be a good and loving husband/wife, and to know the ways of righteousness and true manhood/womanhood.

Father, I am powerless against these spiritual forces and recognize my utter dependence on You and Your power. Look with mercy upon me and upon my husband/wife. Do not look upon our sins, O Lord; rather, look at the sufferings of your Beloved Son and see the Victim who’s bitter passion and death has reconciled us to You. By the victory of the cross, protect us from all evil and rebuke any evil spirits who are attacking or influencing us in any way. Send them back to Hell and place a wall of protection around this marriage. Send your Holy Angels to watch over us and protect us.

Father, all of these things I ask in the most holy name of Jesus Christ, Your Son. Thank you, Father, for hearing my prayer. I love You, I worship You, I thank You and I trust in You. Amen.

Source: http://saint-mike.org/warfare/library/hedge-prayer-for-return-of-a-wayward-spouse/